Wedding Sales Fable of Goldie-Bride and the 13 DJ-Bears

mixed-signalsOnce upon a time there was a bride named Goldie. She had met her prince charming and couldn’t wait to start the process of planning her wedding. She stopped at a bookstore and came home with an armload of wedding magazines. Goldie was inspired.

Goldie set her DVR and recorded many wedding shows. There were shows about cakes, shows about brides-behaving-badly, shows about wedding dresses, and shows about planning the almost-perfect wedding… including one with a white knight named David Tutera who rides in on his trusty steed, Marky Mark (named after his favorite actor), to save the day from incredibly amateur wedding planning. Goldie drank gallons of coffee and watched the wedding shows until the wee hours of the morning. Goldie was jittery… and further inspired.

Goldie took her inspiration to the internet where she registered at every wedding website known to humanity… local sites, regional sites, and national sites. She read many message board postings of incredibly uninformed and self-centered brides, most of whom had not yet married, and therefore knew little of what they spoke. Nevertheless, having logged dozens of hours, swimming in information and data, Goldie was convinced she was becoming a wedding expert. She now forecast a career as a wedding planner, as soon as she completed her own wedding.

Like a college student, cramming for final exams, Goldie‘s head was ready to explode. She had consumed seemingly unlimited amounts of information, but hadn’t made one decision. Poor Goldie. A bridal show… that would be the answer. She could meet many wedding professionals, under one roof, on one day. Surely this would make decision making easier. Go Goldie, Go!!

disc jockey bearGoldie started with wedding disc jockeys, knowing how important they would be in the success of her reception. She was quite excited after meeting the first couple of DJ’s. And then, at each aisle, it seemed, there was yet another disc jockey. They were all dressed in bear suits and had matching accessories from a local tuxedo store.

Goldie learned a new word… commodity.

And with each successive encounter she filled her wedding basket with a treasure trove of CHOICES. Choices of music, disc jockeys, wedding entertainment directors, uplighting, dance floor lighting, gobos, party motivators, more equipment, less equipment, CDs and vinyl records. Goldie’s eyes started to spin like a cartoon character that had been conked on the head with a frying pan. Poor Goldie…

Goldie was no longer inspired. She was confused.

Goldie wanted fewer choices.

There weren’t too many bears… uhh, DJs. Though each of them offered too many choices. Goldie’s head was splitting with options. She couldn’t make one decision, until she met the 13th bear. That bear offered a single choice, an appointment.

“I’m sure you’ve met many other bears and DJ’s, today. I know we all have a lot to offer. Perhaps it would be easier if you came to our office, brought your fiancé, and enjoyed some porridge. Then we could answer all your questions without your head exploding. Would afternoon or evening be better?”

bear-coupleAnd so, Goldie deferred her decision until she met with the knowledgable and professional 13th DJ-Bear. Goldie was able to clear her head, at least for a little while, and decided to hire this particular bear to entertain at her wedding.

Goldie was no longer inspired. She was content and relieved.

As she made her way around the bridal show floor, Goldie made appointments with other wedding professionals who understood the wisdom of how to work a bridal show.

Morale: Disc jockey wedding bears and other wedding professional bears that make appointments at wedding shows, make more sales. Any other strategy would be… well, unbearable.

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Bridal Show Exhibiting

Bridal Show ExhibitingWedding businesses seem to experience recurring cases of amnesia, at least twice annually. Regardless of the effectiveness of exhibiting in a bridal show, many companies review the buying decision, every time.  Other businesses just renew for the next series of shows, without missing a beat.

Describing a Successful Wedding Show

Bridal show staff members have an impossible job. Planning the show, selling exhibitor space, developing sponsorship participation, continually improving the event, itself, with new wrinkles, and attracting solid attendance from brides, grooms, and their entourage members.

As part of their show-day duties, members of staff will circulate throughout the show floor and check in on exhibitors to make certain everything is to their liking and see if they have any immediate needs or issues. This proactive work can head off bigger problems often spoken about (for the first time) AFTER the show. Seeking brush fires and putting them out is good show management protocol.

And how’s the show going for you, so far?

When asking this question to 100 exhibitors, a show producer will get a variety of answers. Most responses are of little value. The value is in showing genuine concern for the perceived success at the show.

As a past exhibitor, I would bristle at the question. Particularly, if the show staffer was accompanied by a clipboard and contract for the next show (usually accompanied by a discount). My standard response was: “It’s too early to tell. Take to me 30-60 days.”

My brusque response was based on the notion that primary show accomplishments are measured by the number of appointments booked. Some businesses will book business, at the show, and that’s fine. But they are the exception.

Other than day-of-show sales, the main goals should be:

  • Booking appointments
  • Appointments – Utilizing email, snail mail, and telemarketing – POST SHOW – to confirm existing appointments and book new appointments
  • Reinforcing company branding within the local wedding market
  • Showcase new services, staff

How to Shoot Yourself in the Foot

Perhaps the most frustrating discussion a bridal show producer can have with an exhibitor who elects to take part in the next show because ‘We did so well from the last show, we thought we’d sit out and see what happens.’

The show producer will try to talk the exhibitor out of taking a sabbatical for a variety of reasons, both for the benefit of their customer (you) and themselves.

Suffering from Success

Bridal Show ExhibitingSuffering from Success is an Ebonism describing a state of overwhelm from too many inquiries or bookings. It has been my experience, both personally and by observation that suffering from success is a temporary condition, often resulting in excessive optimism.

Circumstances change quickly. Referral relationships can change overnight. People can relocate, get fired, or transfer in the blink of an eye. You can fall out of favor with a peer by your own hand or an employee gaffe. It can and does happen. Believing you are somehow immune is blue sky optimism.

Wedding Shows are a lead source, Year Round

Virtually all show websites provide leads to their exhibitors, both from the live events and sign-ups on websites. Sadly, advertisers/exhibitors rarely take advantage of this ongoing influx of prospects. There are different ‘wedding seasons’ (as far as months when people get married), but engagements occur every month of the year.

Yes it’s true the most engagements happen Thanksgiving through New Year’s Eve’. The next largest engagement period is around Valentine’s Day. If you limit your wedding marketing activity to those time frames, you are shorting yourself.

Out of Sight, Out of Mind

In our burgeoning internet and social media world, many wedding professionals have scaled back their face-to-face wedding marketing and networking; either unwittingly or by choice. Your absence from wedding shows speaks more loudly than your presence.

Suffering from Success: Part 2

Other than becoming more efficient in handling business, there are other options at your disposal.

  • Expanding your business
  • Developing improved strategic alliances with friendly competitors
  • Enhancing your target audience – including RAISING PRICES

The pricing test

If you are effectively sold out at the appropriate times on your calendar, then ask yourself this,

“Am I turning away any business for the stated reason of ‘being too expensive’?”

If the answer is NO… or sometimes, but I’m able to fill those dates with then next prospect, THEN, you should consider raising your prices. It’s a step to consider thoughtfully.

Any price increase, without expanding capacity, is money headed right for your bottom line.

Saturdays Sold Out through June 13th

At the next wedding show, why not declare your success by letting wedding couples and wedding professionals about how solid your company is. It will be a motivator for wedding couples and professionals.

My Recommendations

Don’t ever sit on the sidelines to ‘see what happens’ if you don’t exhibit ‘this time’. Don’t be Passive! Proactively build on your success and direct your company to scale even greater heights.

Andy Ebon

Andy Ebon
The Wedding Marketing Authority


wedding marketingAs mid-year approaches, one’s mind wanders toward self-assessment. Even if you don’t have a detailed marketing plan, you look at how many weddings are on-the-books, year-to-date, what the dollar value is, and how the appointment calendar looks.

What if appointments and sales are looking flat… a bit below last year… or downright dismal?

Don’t call around to commiserate with friends or friendly competitors. Pick up the phone and book yourself into the next available bridal show in your market. If there is more than one solid and reputable bridal show in your area, and you have the available inventory/capacity, book yourself into more than one.

“Don’t be stingy… Being in a bridal show puts you face-to-face with brides and grooms who products and services like yours.”

Here’s another secret

The most important goal for bridal shows is booking appointments… NOT making sales. Have goals, an appointment book, a polished booth, and a well-trained staff.

If you don’t know where to start, try search the BSPI Directory of Bridal Show Producers for a show producer in your area.  Then, don’t complain about your cash flow. Get out the credit card before the show sells out.

Summer and fall wedding shows are selling out, now! You’ve been warned!!

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Andy Ebon
Wedding Marketing Expert
The Wedding Marketing Blog

Less is More Part 2

fii-250x245Brides and Wedding Business owners and managers have more in common than some may realize. Just as brides are overwhelmed by endless resources, choices, and options-they-didn’t-even-know-existed… when it comes to wedding marketing, business owners and managers have their heads on a swivel.

It starts with keeping score

Before one can make intelligent wedding marketing choices, you have to keep score on your own activity. Website, time and ROI on social media, online directories, appointments and sales from wedding shows, print ad branding, networking effectiveness… and the list goes on.

Take your website, please

Can you give answers to the following questions? (referring to the last 30 days)

  • How many total visitors came to your website?
  • How many were new visitors?
  • How many were return visitors?
  • On average, how much time did they spend on the website?
  • What was the average number of pages they visited?
  • Other than your home page, what was the most-visited page?
  • Which page led the way in being the last-page-visited, before exiting your site?
  • What percentage found your site by search engines, links, entering your domain name?

If you missed more than 1 or 2 answers to this magic quiz, you are not looking at your website statistics. Every website host provides statistics. I urge adding Google Analytics, too. It’s about a half-hour process. It’s free, and you can schedule reports to one or more email addresses.

Believe me, there are many more statistics delivered in the Google Analytics system. Amazingly, they are not that complicated.

The Pesky Online Inquiry Form

Many of the leads generated by brides come to you via email or online inquiry form; mostly the latter, if you have such a form. The mistake I see, most often, is simply having a fill-in-the-blank field, preceded by the question: How did you hear about this business?

Don’t expect the bride to fill in multiple lead sourcing to that question. With all the wedding marketing opportunities in the bridal world, it’s highly likely that she heard about you from several sources.

Don’t just give her the fill-in-the-blank question? Add a set of check boxes for the different magazines, websites, wedding shows, and other places you promote your business.

You need to know where you are, first!

And that’s the point of keeping score. Before you can make future marketing decisions, large or small, you need to know what’s happening now. If you think you know, but you haven’t kept score, well… you’re just guessing.

Andy Ebon
Wedding Marketing Expert
The Wedding Marketing Blog